Anonymous asked: Hi,
so do you have any suggestions of things you can masturbate with if you're a girl that doesn't own a vibrator and can't buy one...also i masturbate and it's really awkward when people ask me if i do and i lie and say no. is it normal for a teengirl to do?
Firstly, thank you for the question!
Now to answer it:
Yes, it is Absolutely normal for a teen girl to masturbate. In fact, it is very healthy to masturbate. Recently, on the Oprah Winferey show, they “demystified” female masturbation and here are some of those health benefits:
- Improves your mood
- Relieves stress
- You have a better understanding of your own body and what it needs to reach that big “O”
- Strengthens the relationship with sexual partner(s)
As for what to use while masturbating. There are lots of toys, dildos, and vibrators on the market. Many women may be nervous to buy one because they maybe afraid they’ll be seen as a “freak.” Or some could just not know where to even begin in searching for a toy that would be a great fit for their bodies and what they are looking to achieve during their one-on-one time.
If you, anon, are the former in that you maybe nervous in going out and purchasing the toy for yourself, know that there are a few products even at Wal-Mart or Walgreens that are advertised as “massagers” but the vibrations and shape work for masturbation.
If you aren’t quite to the point of making the jump in making a toy purchase, there are some household masturbation tools you could use. Of course, make sure that they are kept clean:
- The base of an electric toothbrush
- Bath faucet
- Detachable shower head
- Corner of a washing machine (kind of cliche, I know, but effective)
I hope that this was able to answer your questions and if you have anymore please let me know!
Happy Playtime :)
My first heartbreak…almost at the age of 22…..
I feel ridiculous even typing that title. I mean really, who goes until the age of 22 without ever experiencing any real heart break or being on the receiving end of a break up? Well that would be me.
I have been in numerous relationships, few being serious, several being close to serious, and many being flings.
So on to this heart break…
I met this really nice guy a few weeks ago, and we’ve been talking everyday since then. Between texting and phone conversations, I becoming quite infatuated. He met everything on my “list.” Oh…don’t act like you don’t have one!
He was extremely kind, intelligent, honest, educated, funny, and incredibly good looking. All great? Yes. Definitely.
So we agreed to have an official date. He planned this amazing date. It sounded amazing, and it was amazing. We spent the afternoon at the Henry Doorly Zoo. Despite being about 100 degrees we had so much fun. We had a really nice dinner, and then to my surprise, he had scheduled us a couples massage.
Like what? Who gets to go to a couples massage on their first date!? I was ecstatic. It was phenomenal. At this point I was going crazy inside being torn between asking him to marry me, or to rip his clothes off right then and there.
So I went with the latter….we had mind-blowing sex. Yes, sex on the first date..I won’t be that girl and say "Omgosh, I never do that." Because let’s be honest….if the chemistry is on…it is on and no amount of waiting (in my mind) will make it better….or more right. .
Skip forward 24 hours….
Everything was wonderful the next morning. I headed home feeling like I was flying on Cloud 9. He called me later that same morning after he came from a doctor’s appointment and said that he was “doing some soul searching.” To make a long story short, he has been divorced for about 2 years, and he has 2 young kids (ages 2 and 4) from his first marriage. He thought that he was ready for a relationship after being single since his divorce, and came to the realization that he isn’t ready.
When I realized where the conversation was going, I didn’t even brace myself for any heart break, because I have honestly never felt anything close to it. I literally felt like I had been hit by a truck in the middle of my chest. I started tearing up…which I promptly stopped because I couldn’t even believe I was crying.
Okay, so to put this strange reaction into perspective, I was in a relationship for 3.5 years with someone who I had a wedding date set and dress tried on….and when we broke up, I didn’t shed a tear or feel even a fraction of what I was feeling in this conversation.
My mum always tells me that “you have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find your prince….” Yet, why do I feel like I did just kiss a prince? Then I almost wish that he was that frog so I don’t feel that continuous ache in my chest.
I guess I had let my guard down more than I thought and I truly, truly liked him and there was SO much great potential. I do feel much better now. There is still a mild ache and sadness at the lost potential. I really do hope that he finds himself and will be able to eventually be ready for a relationship, whoever gets to be with him is honestly a very lucky woman.